Hi, I’m Timothy Barton! I’m a Men's Mindset Mentor, dedicated Dadvocate™ Coach, and Couplez Integration Guide. You may be asking yourself, what in the world is a Dadvocate™??? I'm glad YOU asked, it means that I'm dedicated to guiding men as fathers, stepfathers, and other father-figures through an intentional and comprehensive growth process of becoming the best version of Dad and YOU, by equipping you the knowledge, tools, and skills-based coaching necessary for you to truly help YOU to levelUP your dad-game! As a former single dad myself, I’ve got a special place in my heart for the single dads; I know there is not much out there for YOU as I've experienced it firsthand and is a big part of why created YOUtopia DEVELOPMENT.
If you are dealing with baby-mama drama, whether you live with her or not, I'm here to guide YOU do so with more sanity intact, with more grace, and in a way that is also more beneficial for your children's wellbeing; if are YOU struggling to navigate co-parenting, if you are feeling trapped &/or stuck in dysfunctional cycles, I will give YOU a compass to help better navigate these waters too. If you've decided to start over again, whether that be venturing into dating or deciding to blend a family, I offer YOU my coaching expertise and dedicated know-how to assist YOU with navigating all sorts of being a father and your various dadding duties. If you want to live with greater intentionality, grow in clarity, creating more meaning along the way, and finding and living with enhanced purpose this is exactly where DEVELOPMENT begins with YOU!
I see my Dadvocacy™ as an adjunct to my commitment to strengthening men in authentic masculine virtue as it extends all men: married dads, stepdads within blended-families, fathers-in-law, grandads, and other father-figures of all sorts. While my primary focus is on coaching men, I'm also equally committed to assisting couples both pre-marriage and post-marriage, and second marriage couples as well, assisting them with cultivating abiding strength and growing stronger together. With a special and unique focus on assisting military couples/families in their military transition to civilian life, I initially envisioned my BetterYOU Couplez Integration Journey for YOU. While military couples in transition and civilian couples have many similar challenges, military families often have unique needs for family reintegration coaching with renegotiating of familial roles. Noone knows better the benefits, need for joint-mission and community than our military families; my guiding star is that I would like to work towards the creation of a community of learning, with an emphasis on community, and outgrowth of this community being a place where we can all learn and grow together. Whether YOU are a military couple or a civilian couple, navigating life's many and varied transitions requires many deliberate and intentional action-steps, e.g. enhancing your natural resilience both as individuals and as a couple, growing in your cognitive flexibility both separately and jointly, and cultivating your joint and individual Emotional ResponseAbility™. These skills offer very real-life benefits for all couples and why I've opened up the BetterYOU Couplez Integration Journey™, to all couples with the hope to buid and foster community. I created this framework, as a place where couples can come together to create for themselves, a battleplan to solidify and strengthen their relationship and marriage covenant.
It is shown that couples who are intentional in their learning and growing together are significantly better positioned to navigate the many transitions, challenges and various hardships throw our way! There is no absolutely no doubt, that couples will always fare life's storms better, with more grace, by intentionally and consistently learning and working together to make life better! By doing so YOU create a united front with your spouse and stronger foundation for your family! Over the years I have journeyed with many people, guiding them to change their life by changing their mindsets, their behaviors, and their live's trajectory by helping to move from floundering to flourishing, and teaching them how to:
- Enhance Their Natural Resilience and Nourish Their strong mindedness.
- Cultivate a Greater Growth Mindset and Grow into Their Grit.
- Dig Deeper Into Life, Increase Their Personal Insight by Enhancing their Self-Awareness; and
- Increasing Their Skills in what I call: “Emotional ResponseAbility™."
My approach is dynamic, strengths-based, highly flexible. and person-centered; using empirically validated, research-backed models, that are also based upon Existential Positive Psychology principles and proven by human experience! Take your next step to becoming a BetterYOU™ by reaching out to me today—Let’s chat!
About me, Timothy
I’ve dedicated my entire career to the professional service of others, doing so mostly within various education, social and human services settings. I’ve had the great privilege of walking alongside many diverse individuals, guiding them in learning new ways of thinking, assisting them with becoming more intentional in both their behaviors and life choices, while guiding them in making various life changes both great and small—One step at a time and one day at a time!
When I became a father at the age of 18, I referred to my daughter Ashley as “my high school graduation present;” a few short years later, a custody battle began as I fought and became a sole custodial single father as a 21- year-old student at Duquesne University of the Holy Spirit.
Presently, I’ve been married for over 19 years to my beloved wife, Lisa, she and I have three children. Lisa readily adopted my oldest daughter into her heart both before, and in a special way, on our wedding day. A few years later Lisa and I sadly had to face the death of our pre-born son, named Simeon-John. Another few years passed, and we were blessed with our youngest daughter, Evangeline, whose birth announcements I chose to caption: “The New Evangeline,” in union with the Church's call for
The New Evangelization!
Pictured here are my four most favorite ladies in the whole wide world: my beloved wife Lisa, my mother Marilyn and my two lovely little ladybugs: Ashley and Evangeline!
As far as married dads and step-dads are concerned, I know firsthand the struggles of married life, as well as some of the tumultuous difficulties that can arise when blending a family.
Although not yet a grandad, I truly believe, that it would be absolutely fantastic and beneficial to all the men who are involved in our program to glean some sage wisdom from the grandfathers in our midst; as men, we come together to grow together, just as iron sharpens iron. Therefore, I open this opportunity of growth, it extends to all grandads, uncles and other father-figures as well. As we journey together towards a deeper, more integrated life, let us seek to build up one another as we work together to build up the Kingdom of God.